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Take care of yourself, guys

  
I've written a few times over the last couple years about a collector I know. He was a co-worker. He didn't work in the same department but he used to come up to the office and we'd babble about cards.
 
Through the years he went from a collector who bought boxes and boxes of cards at the local Target/Walmart (I once encountered him and his girlfriend with a shopping cart full of blasters) to someone I saw at the monthly show with a table selling cards -- something that earlier on he couldn't see himself doing.
 
He died a week ago today. Heart attack. He was 53.
 
That is crazy young, younger than me. And all I could think of was a whole bunch of people that I see at card shows who are in bad shape -- much worse than the guy I worked with and often even younger. Since I heard about his death, it's been on my mind. Last weekend I went to an outdoor flea market and my mind fixated on the out-of-shape people, thinking "take care of yourself, dude!"
 
Corey wasn't obese, but you could tell he liked his beer over the years. He used to play softball on a semipro level and when my newspaper had a softball team, he was the star player. He liked the Yankees, had a bunch of memorabilia along with the cards, would go to spring training almost every year and had been to The National a couple of times. He had so many cards he was even selling them out of his house. I never got over there.
 
He was a good guy, friendly, easy to talk to. We chatted quite a bit at his table at the monthly show. I'm not a chatty guy but when you're talking about cards, I can go on and on. And we did -- about business, the state of the show and the hobby. He had expanded to a table at the big show in Syracuse the most recent time I was there.
 
The last time I saw him was at the monthly show in June. Our paths didn't cross at work lately, he worked days and I nights. He said then he was going to skip the next couple of summer shows, business wasn't great, and come back in the fall.
 
But that's it. I won't be able to grab any fancy cards on the cheap from him anymore. He used to set aside some cards for me. This is all stuff I picked up from his table in the last year.
 






Yeah, all modern stuff. The only vintage card I found at his table -- in a dollar box -- was the Rocky Colavito card at the top of the post.
 
I had my eye on a Martina Hingis relic/auto card that he had displayed for months and months. I didn't want to pay the price (it wasn't the most attractive looking card), but figured I'd get it someday. Now I won't.
 
As collectors and show-goers we sometimes make jokes about the clientele. Sometimes, between the backpacks and the "suitcases" and the width of the collectors, it's tough to get down an aisle. There are jokes about people's unkempt state and "the smell". But when you think about it, it can be concerning, I'm assuming collectors want to be playing with their cards as many years as possible.
 
I've dealt with health issues regarding weight and nutrition. Thirteen years ago I was diagnosed with diabetes. I got things under control but it's a battle every day, sometimes it's going great, other times it's not. I work out or do some form of exercise every single day. When I found out why I was feeling so horrible I was freaked out. I thought I'd be dead by the time I hit 50. But I'm still here.
 
Anyway, that's at least the third time I've dealt with the death of a collector at too young an age that I knew. The first two were virtual friends, formed through the blog but this one was from real life.
 
I don't know what happens to all those cards now. It's tough.  

Comments

Angus said…
Sorry for the loss of your friend, and a fellow card guy. Way too young.
deal said…
Sorry for your loss and to Corey's family. Horrible thing to have happen any time but 53 is so mid-lfe - so many things in progress.

I remember Chris Stufflestreet passing - I checked that was 13 years ago this month. I had met Chris briefly once at the National and remember your tribute to him.

Take care of yourself and enjoy the folks we meet in this odd universe.

Don said…
That is too young. I'm 56 and have a daily battle with being overweight. Thankfully my wifebis very supportive in helping me try and get healthy.
Bo said…
Sorry to hear this.
BillK21093 said…
Greg: Sorry for the loss of your friend and co-worker. This was a nice friendly reminder to everyone to stay as healthy as one can.

I have found that listening to Sports Card related podcast when I take my daily walk makes the walk much more enjoyable and I tend to walk longer if the podcast is interesting.
POISON75 said…
I know what you're going through besides my little brother passing in January of this year i had 2 of my great dealer friends at the 1 show I attend pass away as well one in March which was a shock cause he was at the February show cheering me up after my brother passing & he would sell DVDs of games & I was looking forward to seeing him about getting another copy of 1968 World Series games & the 1971 All-Star Game then in April the other had passed cause as well died while setting up at a show in Boston area. Fast forward to attending the national I ran into his wife she asked me what I was looking for & behind her was a picture of her husband & I mentioned I need that guy not to be gone & she said I agree then we discussed how he had a set of the 00/01 Upper Deck hockey for me I've yet to get it from her but with my hectic schedule we keep passing each other hopefully I can find time to meet her & get the set he had aside for me before November. So believe me Mr Owl I know what you mean taking care of ourselves is the best thing we can do for now.
Fuji said…
Sorry to hear about your friend/co-worker. I just turned 53, so this post definitely hit me. I've lost two collector friends over the years... one was a guy I consider a close friend. Each time it made me think about my health and life choices. This post had the same affect on me.
Anonymous said…
I ate meat and dairy for the first 47 years of my life. Sixteen of my friends who ate like I did died from cancer, heart attacks, or some other chronic disease. So many more are on $1,000+ of meds each month to manage their symptoms. I've been vegan for the last 8 years, and only wish I made the switch sooner. Watch "The Game Changers" documentary to learn why elite athletes went plant-based, and the benefits you can enjoy too. It's easy to do, the food tastes so much better than that meat and dairy dog crap, and you feel like 100 times more of a man for actually standing up for those who can't fight back for themselves, instead of torturing them because they look different than you, and don't speak your language. Think about it. Isn't that why we torture cows, pigs, chickens and turkeys? Because they're different than us, and they can't fight back? Don't be a fool. The Big Pharma companies earn billions off of the idiotic marketing that says that eating meat is manly, when in reality it turns you into a weak, puny coward who can't think for himself, and will be on medication until you die in a pool of your own spit -- probably before you turn 55. But you don't have to do that. You can be strong and decide to make your own choices, not what the pathetic meat marketing army tells you. It's up to you.
Grant said…
Sorry to hear about your friend, N.O. When I lost a collector friend a few years ago, some of our friends and I volunteered to sell his collection on behalf of his widow and gave her all the money. She wouldn't have known what to do with all of it, and I would think he would have done the same for me. Maybe something to consider if it is necessary.
My condolences on the loss of a friend. Yes, def. too young.
Matt said…
Sorry for the loss of your friend.
Doc Samson said…
Sorry for your loss, Mr. Owl. I’m not much older than your co-worker, so I have been trying to make better decisions regarding my own health. I try to walk as much as I can, which really helps. It’s also nice to debate with yourself while you go out for a stroll. Like whether or not 84 Donruss is better than 85 Donruss.
Zippy Zappy said…
Sorry for your loss.

Also shortly after I sent you the last SCG package my 6 pack abs started forming.
bryan was here said…
Sorry to hear about this. Fifty three is way too young, he was only a year younger than I am.
A lot of what factors into our health, besides diet and exercise, is stress levels. If we're under constant stress, it can take three to five years off our life. I've learned to declutter my life and not let outside drama weigh me down. Plus having relaxing hobbies helps as well!
kcjays said…
Sad thoughts indeed.
Prayers lifted for you and your friend's family.
I had 99% blockage and a stent put in on my 46th birthday. A heart attack and triple bypass a month after I turned 57. As I rapidly approach 65 I'm doing well and have lost 40 lbs over the last year. (Back down to 180) The weight "creeps up" so easily.
As mentioned, eating habits, exercise and stress management are all very important. TAKE CARE of yourselves! There are too many "holes" in our card collections that need filling not to. Also there are our family and friends.
Sidenote: 84 base Donruss are better than 85, but the Diamond King design of 85 is better than 84.
I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your friend and agree how scary heart disease is. My dad died of a heart attack at 63 after mowing the yard one evening. It makes me sad to think about the missed ball games over the last decade and how much he would have loved debating with my youngest…